i feel like religion control your mind too much .
I believe that their is God though and it seem to me that i dont know anything about him.
Open minded answers. Dont just quote bible scripture or tell me God doesnt exist that not what im looking for.Do you control life in your hands or is it a GOD thing?
life is in our handsDo you control life in your hands or is it a GOD thing?
It's in God's hands. He is in control of our destiny. There are many things in thie life that we cannot count on, but on Jesus Christ you can depend. Just turn your heart over to him and let him have 'control';. You will then find the true joy that one finds only through Jesus Christ!
What are you looking for, then? You believe there is a god but you don't know anything about him. What do you believe there is, then?
Friday, May 14, 2010
Girls I need your opinion? What does this make me? Am I out of hand? Should I be more controlled?
I'm a teenager and I've been worried that I've been getting out of control. I love dares and so I made this video which my friends put on youtube (part of the dare).
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88doK52SDVc
My best friend though says that I'm becoming a slut, yet she made a video too!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3cBzXUODs
Am I a slut? Wouldn't she be one too then though? Also, if we are out of control, who do you think is more out of control? Girls only please! I don't want any guys to see this, because that would be totally EMBARRASSING!!!!!Girls I need your opinion? What does this make me? Am I out of hand? Should I be more controlled?
First of all you can't control who answers, and certainly not who sees the video. Are you a slut or out of control? We can't know, but you certainly seem to crave attention. For one thing YA probably has 25 million viewers and youTube, as many or more.
Whatever your motives at least you posted it in adult. beyond that, big sigh.
Angel
Added thought. It looks like she has a bit more flash and her taste in music is better, and she can kind of sing.Girls I need your opinion? What does this make me? Am I out of hand? Should I be more controlled?
You are a slut. Sorry to break it to you. (Your friend, however is more of one)
But seriously, all those comments are made by young boys wanting action, or old perves wanting little girls.
Sure, i'm probably your age too, but come on, do you really need to make a video showing your ';booty dance';. I would never ever do that, maybe infront of someone i love, but not the entire world. Think before you do something like this next time.. And trust me, i am not trying to be rude, i understand where you are coming from.
So...you're going to put this on Youtube so old pervs can watch it also? Have fun with that.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88doK52SDVc
My best friend though says that I'm becoming a slut, yet she made a video too!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3cBzXUODs
Am I a slut? Wouldn't she be one too then though? Also, if we are out of control, who do you think is more out of control? Girls only please! I don't want any guys to see this, because that would be totally EMBARRASSING!!!!!Girls I need your opinion? What does this make me? Am I out of hand? Should I be more controlled?
First of all you can't control who answers, and certainly not who sees the video. Are you a slut or out of control? We can't know, but you certainly seem to crave attention. For one thing YA probably has 25 million viewers and youTube, as many or more.
Whatever your motives at least you posted it in adult. beyond that, big sigh.
Angel
Added thought. It looks like she has a bit more flash and her taste in music is better, and she can kind of sing.Girls I need your opinion? What does this make me? Am I out of hand? Should I be more controlled?
You are a slut. Sorry to break it to you. (Your friend, however is more of one)
But seriously, all those comments are made by young boys wanting action, or old perves wanting little girls.
Sure, i'm probably your age too, but come on, do you really need to make a video showing your ';booty dance';. I would never ever do that, maybe infront of someone i love, but not the entire world. Think before you do something like this next time.. And trust me, i am not trying to be rude, i understand where you are coming from.
So...you're going to put this on Youtube so old pervs can watch it also? Have fun with that.
I have a kid of 4yrs old. i need to control her temper.it is always her wants be the upper hand .she is bossy?
she tells us how to speak to her .I have a kid of 4yrs old. i need to control her temper.it is always her wants be the upper hand .she is bossy?
She is behaving normally for a 4-year. It is your reaction and handling of these sorts of normal behaviours that will help to shape who she becomes as she matures.
Since there are many, many strategies and nuances for dealing with this sort of parenting situation, I would strongly recommend that you buy or borrow and read: ';The Defiant Child: A Parent's Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder';.
This book is absolutely outstanding for handling defiance in children - even if it is not a disorder but just a stage of development for your little one (like, most likely, in your instance).
In the meantime, exercise patience, consistency and always remember that you can parent her and teach without hitting her.
*Edit*
Hitting your child for experiencing a stage of normal development, starving her, grounding her (she's 4!) or depriving her ... or any of the myriad of ludicrous advice left here by people who either don't have children or should never had had children, are all bad ideas and potentially damaging especially without some close-to-reasonable parenting skills and a plan. This is up to you - the adult - to fix, not up to a 4-year old.
Please don't hit your 4-year old for simply being 4!I have a kid of 4yrs old. i need to control her temper.it is always her wants be the upper hand .she is bossy?
I have an almost-four year old daughter. I think it must be the age-they want to be the Alpha Female in the house or something. For the attitude and mouthing-off, spankings don't work for my daughter. I've tried- it didn't accomplish anything. I took away toys, treats, privileges, etc. I told her in a firm voice that she must use her manners, and when she doesn't, she loses her toy or getting to go outside that day or watching Clifford- something that means something to her. She also has to lay in the bed alone for 5-10 minutes everytime she mouths off. I also try to ';catch'; her doing good and being polite. Sticker reward charts motivate her to do good. I guess it's just seeing the evidence that she's been well-behaved helps her.
Also, (and I thought my mom was crazy when she first told me this), pay attention to how you speak to your daughter. I've noticed that my daughter is often repeating the phrases- or especially tone of voice- that I use with her when I'm disciplining her. It's not ok, but sometimes kids are just honestly mimicking what they hear. So, it may just be a thing of her copying what you say and not realizing that you're the parent, she's the child. You just have to teach her that it's not ok.
If your child bad mouths you. You need to nip that in the bud fast and quickly. as that child will become worse when she gets older OK?
You need to tell her NO and mean it. If she wants something you don't want her to have. If she misbehaves and tells you off time to tell her don't talk to me this way I am your mom or dad. Whoever is talking to her. If she persists on acting bad mouthed. Then a good spanking is necessary. And then sent her to her room and tell her to stay there until You say she can come out. If she comes out of the room tell her to march back in that room Now or you will get another spanking. Show you mean Business. A going to her bedroom when she is bad.. tell her she needs time out.. and that is one way she will learn you mean business and not fooling around.
Spanking is one thing. And it helps displicine the child. But beating is different. As there is a difference between beating and spanking. As one is not abusing the situation where one is. And spanking is not abusing any situation but correcting her /him to behave and act right.
Another idea.. is start taking things away she loves to play with. Put it in a box and somewhere she can't find it. she will get the hint.. she will not have that item until she starts behaving.
If you go to the store and she wants something.. tell her straight out NO!!! say when I see some improvements of you behaving.. maybe then I will start buying you things.
If she was my child. She would not have that attitude long. As she would not get nothing from me.. and get a spankings a lot. My parents were brought up the old ways.. and brought me up the old fashion ways. I had a old thick ruler and willow tree switch used on me. And even one of those old barber straps too. and I only got it when I was bad too. Not to often I misbehaved after a few treatments of those. Ouch!!! they sure did hurt. My pride was hurt and mostly feelings.
And no special treats until she /he shows that they earned that right also. An no going over to play other kids until she learns respecting Dad and Mom either. she can be grounded from activities until she behaves herself.
And if she gives you this crap about Child Protective Service crap. Then tell her ..if she wants to go somewhere else or to adoptive place where she will not be treated right there.. go right ahead.
And if she does do that.. the Child Protective Service crap. Start buying her hand me downs. None of these better things she may have. Like clothes or shoes.. etc. Go to dollar store or something like that. Or walmart. Something less expensive. And when she ask for something better say nope. I may have to buy you things but I do not have to give you things you want. And clothes. Tell her/him if she wants to have her/him
clothes clean. Better behave.. or they will not be done. And food. Give her the things you want her to have.. not the things she /he wants. Always solutions behind those kids who act naughty. And just remember December is coming soon. Maybe Santa Claus will not give her nothing for presents .. and give her a piece of black coal this year huh?? Hope these options helped you. I think this year No presents this year I think for her Christmas. She /he does not deserve it one bit. I may seem tough. But you have to OK? Even if she misbehaves those options any way will help the situation if Child protection services are not a option. Good luck!! Know you will need it.
Set down rules and consequences and BE CONSISTENT. Try to keep them simple and make sure the consequences are easy for you to implement so you are not punishing yourself.
Make absolutely certain that you NEVER lose your own temper when dealing with her. Showing her that losing your temper is a way to act will validate her current misbehavior.
i'm shocked that so many people are resorting to spanking. i use 1,2,3 Magic and it is magic. there's a book that explains that process and it's extremely effective. i have 3 kids all 4 and under and it works.
count 1 - warning
count 2 - warning
count 3 - timeout (1 minutes for each year of age) i set a timer and my kids turn it off when the timeout is over. even my 2 year old does this. the first time may be difficult. you can put her in her room and hold the door shut. trust me, she won't like it. also, don't talk to the child while they are on timeout. just ignore them - no matter how loud they get. kids hate being ignored.
Your the boss!!!! You need to let her know that! I don't believe in hitting...but maybe punishing. So if she/he doesn't listen, send her/him to her/his room, and if she/he still does not listen just start putting up his/her favorite toys and keeping them until the child decides that they are going to listen.
It is normal for a child to be bossy! All children think that they are right no matter what. You just have to think of a way to show them that it is ok to be wrong. Idk how you would do that but I hope this helps! :)
Four year olds tend toward bossiness. A lot of it is control. You can try go give her more control by offering her two acceptable alternatives when possible (i.e., would you like green beans or carrots with lunch/do you want to wear a red skirt or a yellow dress). That way, she feels like she's getting some control over the way things are.
That said, you are the adult. Don't let her tell you what to do. I don't respond when I don't like the way kids talk to me. They've learned to ask for things rather than tell me because otherwise they get no response.
I have a 3 year old brother and I mostly take care of him. To be a good parent always try to be patient. Give her treats if she behaves and tell her what she did wrong after she calms down. If you try to argue the it only can get worse.....believe me! Tell her which role she has to play and which role you have. Always talk with a firm voice and never hesitate.....it will show her your weakness. If she still is rude, give her a time-out of 3 1/2 min, but no longer because she won't care after a period. It is very important to be good friends with your chil, so go to the park or play with her. It will help your relation. I hope that this will help you.
I have 2 daughters. What you have to do is when she gets out of control, you have to warn her that you are going to spank her if she doesnt listen. then, when you spank her, you have to make it sting really bad. trust me. she wont act up for a a while, then she will test you again within a week. you need to do the same thing again. remember, it has to sting or your wasting your time. she will listen. trust me, it works. make it sting.
just ignore her when she's in her 'mood' once she gets to see that her little attitude isn't getting her anywhere, she'll be a bit nicer. but maker her KNOW that YOU are the decision maker. YOU are the parent.. you are letting your child parent you while doing these things. that is NOT a good thing....once you let her walk over you, and do it agian, she'll figure out how to keep doing it...and eventually you will have no say at all because she'll have been doing this for so long, that she doesn't care what you think about what she does. you need to take charge of her immediately. if she needs a spanking, do it! put her in time out. when she starts getting into a tantrum (if you can tell when its coming on.) make her sit on the couch, no TV, radio-NOTHING. and do NOT let her get up until she knows that she will be able to behave more calmly. stick her nose in a corner until she learns that what she's doing isn't acceptable. you have to find whats right for her punishment. she's your child, you need to take charge.
X3
This may sound stupid, but watch super nanny, it may sound silly but just try. You have to be consistent in whatever you do. For example if you say she's in time out, leave her in time out and make sure she stays there, then when she's out of time out make sure she knows why she was there. When your disicplining her get down to her level to talk to her. Just some tips
when she does that keel down to her level and firmly explain to her that you are the parent and the Adult in the house and that she can't be tell you how to speak to her and that she needs to respect you and listen to what ever you say and not to tell you haw she wants things and that she has to remember to behave herself and she can't rule you and that she has to do what you tell her to do if she doesn't listen to you give her two warnings the first time she doesn't listen to you let her know that she won't be able to play if you have to remind her put her in time out for five minutes when you take her to time out explain to her what she did wrong and then walk away from her then when her five minutes are up go to her and explain to her again what she did wrong and warn her that if she does again she'll have to go in bed until she is ready to listen to you and follow your directions
will this kind of behaviour is common in kids so nothing to worry but ya u have to controlle this coz otherwise it can ber permanent behaviour. u can tell her this kind of behaviour is not accepted in the society.
dont encourage her behaviou.
if u will call her bossy in front of her it will encourage her to be more bossy. and one more thing never say ur child is bossy to other kids or ppl, coz then those ppl wl start calling her bossy (may be in front of u or may be ehind ur back) this will result in dangerour behaviour.
(if u have other kids then u can tell them to say no to her behaviour n report this thing to u).
try n ignore her behaviou coz children do this to get attention. pay more attention to her in general not wen she is acting bossy. if she acts bossy just make a small good excuse that u will listen to her, tell this excuse very politely to her n then pretend to forget to talk. asnwer her right away wen she ask thing in polite n gud manner.
then explain her that if ur way of telling and acting will be gud we wl answer ur questions very fast.
all this thing u have to do politely coz beating can do nothing except damage in long run.
last not the leat god forbid dont feel shy in taking medical advise if need coz it is the future of ur kid not a joke.
When a child directly defies you...
Turn them around.
Bend them over your knee.
Raise your hand up in the air.
Swing it down forcefully until your hand hits their buttocks.
If this does not work - start over.
I have 5 kids. 5! You only need to spank a few times when they directly defy you and you'll never need to again.
You need to be firm with her, and never, ever let her get away with that. Talk to her pediatrician, she may need some kind of play therapy to learn how to not be so bossy. If you don't nip this in the bud now, you're going to have a much harder time as she gets older. Good luck!
teach her that your in charge and youll make the rules first give her a talk about the rules the if that doesnt work give her a warning then out her i time out then a spanking then a talk with both parents and a luxury taken away (im not a mom only an aunt)
She needs a good smack across the mouth. My mom did it. It will keep her in check. Don't feel bad about spanking her. Think about this. Wouldn't you rather teach her how to behave now, then to have the police/society teach her later?
stop paying attention to her and do when she talks to you correctly. thats what my mom would do to my brother. but if you bloat about ur attention you'll just **** her off. go to barnes n noble an buy one of them 'parenting skills' books. they shood work
YOU HAVE TO SHOW HER YOU ARE THE BOSS.
IGNORE HER LITTLE DRAMAS,
AND WHEN SHE CALMS DOWN THEN SPEAK TO HER WITH AUTHORITY.
ALSO TAKE AWAY ANYTHING THING SHE LOVES.
TILL SHE CHANGES HER ATTITUDE
Grounding does wonders. Once she realizes that you control what she does and what she doesn't do, she should start to listen(better)
Even if you cant bear it, she needs a good spanking. Show her YOU are the boss. If you let it go on she'll grow up to be bitchy
You let her know you are the mother...father?
And by the way, don't hit your kid.
These people are crazy.
don't talk to her much.
you gotta keep your pimp hand strong
a good smack on the *** will shut her up..origins
She is behaving normally for a 4-year. It is your reaction and handling of these sorts of normal behaviours that will help to shape who she becomes as she matures.
Since there are many, many strategies and nuances for dealing with this sort of parenting situation, I would strongly recommend that you buy or borrow and read: ';The Defiant Child: A Parent's Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder';.
This book is absolutely outstanding for handling defiance in children - even if it is not a disorder but just a stage of development for your little one (like, most likely, in your instance).
In the meantime, exercise patience, consistency and always remember that you can parent her and teach without hitting her.
*Edit*
Hitting your child for experiencing a stage of normal development, starving her, grounding her (she's 4!) or depriving her ... or any of the myriad of ludicrous advice left here by people who either don't have children or should never had had children, are all bad ideas and potentially damaging especially without some close-to-reasonable parenting skills and a plan. This is up to you - the adult - to fix, not up to a 4-year old.
Please don't hit your 4-year old for simply being 4!I have a kid of 4yrs old. i need to control her temper.it is always her wants be the upper hand .she is bossy?
I have an almost-four year old daughter. I think it must be the age-they want to be the Alpha Female in the house or something. For the attitude and mouthing-off, spankings don't work for my daughter. I've tried- it didn't accomplish anything. I took away toys, treats, privileges, etc. I told her in a firm voice that she must use her manners, and when she doesn't, she loses her toy or getting to go outside that day or watching Clifford- something that means something to her. She also has to lay in the bed alone for 5-10 minutes everytime she mouths off. I also try to ';catch'; her doing good and being polite. Sticker reward charts motivate her to do good. I guess it's just seeing the evidence that she's been well-behaved helps her.
Also, (and I thought my mom was crazy when she first told me this), pay attention to how you speak to your daughter. I've noticed that my daughter is often repeating the phrases- or especially tone of voice- that I use with her when I'm disciplining her. It's not ok, but sometimes kids are just honestly mimicking what they hear. So, it may just be a thing of her copying what you say and not realizing that you're the parent, she's the child. You just have to teach her that it's not ok.
If your child bad mouths you. You need to nip that in the bud fast and quickly. as that child will become worse when she gets older OK?
You need to tell her NO and mean it. If she wants something you don't want her to have. If she misbehaves and tells you off time to tell her don't talk to me this way I am your mom or dad. Whoever is talking to her. If she persists on acting bad mouthed. Then a good spanking is necessary. And then sent her to her room and tell her to stay there until You say she can come out. If she comes out of the room tell her to march back in that room Now or you will get another spanking. Show you mean Business. A going to her bedroom when she is bad.. tell her she needs time out.. and that is one way she will learn you mean business and not fooling around.
Spanking is one thing. And it helps displicine the child. But beating is different. As there is a difference between beating and spanking. As one is not abusing the situation where one is. And spanking is not abusing any situation but correcting her /him to behave and act right.
Another idea.. is start taking things away she loves to play with. Put it in a box and somewhere she can't find it. she will get the hint.. she will not have that item until she starts behaving.
If you go to the store and she wants something.. tell her straight out NO!!! say when I see some improvements of you behaving.. maybe then I will start buying you things.
If she was my child. She would not have that attitude long. As she would not get nothing from me.. and get a spankings a lot. My parents were brought up the old ways.. and brought me up the old fashion ways. I had a old thick ruler and willow tree switch used on me. And even one of those old barber straps too. and I only got it when I was bad too. Not to often I misbehaved after a few treatments of those. Ouch!!! they sure did hurt. My pride was hurt and mostly feelings.
And no special treats until she /he shows that they earned that right also. An no going over to play other kids until she learns respecting Dad and Mom either. she can be grounded from activities until she behaves herself.
And if she gives you this crap about Child Protective Service crap. Then tell her ..if she wants to go somewhere else or to adoptive place where she will not be treated right there.. go right ahead.
And if she does do that.. the Child Protective Service crap. Start buying her hand me downs. None of these better things she may have. Like clothes or shoes.. etc. Go to dollar store or something like that. Or walmart. Something less expensive. And when she ask for something better say nope. I may have to buy you things but I do not have to give you things you want. And clothes. Tell her/him if she wants to have her/him
clothes clean. Better behave.. or they will not be done. And food. Give her the things you want her to have.. not the things she /he wants. Always solutions behind those kids who act naughty. And just remember December is coming soon. Maybe Santa Claus will not give her nothing for presents .. and give her a piece of black coal this year huh?? Hope these options helped you. I think this year No presents this year I think for her Christmas. She /he does not deserve it one bit. I may seem tough. But you have to OK? Even if she misbehaves those options any way will help the situation if Child protection services are not a option. Good luck!! Know you will need it.
Set down rules and consequences and BE CONSISTENT. Try to keep them simple and make sure the consequences are easy for you to implement so you are not punishing yourself.
Make absolutely certain that you NEVER lose your own temper when dealing with her. Showing her that losing your temper is a way to act will validate her current misbehavior.
i'm shocked that so many people are resorting to spanking. i use 1,2,3 Magic and it is magic. there's a book that explains that process and it's extremely effective. i have 3 kids all 4 and under and it works.
count 1 - warning
count 2 - warning
count 3 - timeout (1 minutes for each year of age) i set a timer and my kids turn it off when the timeout is over. even my 2 year old does this. the first time may be difficult. you can put her in her room and hold the door shut. trust me, she won't like it. also, don't talk to the child while they are on timeout. just ignore them - no matter how loud they get. kids hate being ignored.
Your the boss!!!! You need to let her know that! I don't believe in hitting...but maybe punishing. So if she/he doesn't listen, send her/him to her/his room, and if she/he still does not listen just start putting up his/her favorite toys and keeping them until the child decides that they are going to listen.
It is normal for a child to be bossy! All children think that they are right no matter what. You just have to think of a way to show them that it is ok to be wrong. Idk how you would do that but I hope this helps! :)
Four year olds tend toward bossiness. A lot of it is control. You can try go give her more control by offering her two acceptable alternatives when possible (i.e., would you like green beans or carrots with lunch/do you want to wear a red skirt or a yellow dress). That way, she feels like she's getting some control over the way things are.
That said, you are the adult. Don't let her tell you what to do. I don't respond when I don't like the way kids talk to me. They've learned to ask for things rather than tell me because otherwise they get no response.
I have a 3 year old brother and I mostly take care of him. To be a good parent always try to be patient. Give her treats if she behaves and tell her what she did wrong after she calms down. If you try to argue the it only can get worse.....believe me! Tell her which role she has to play and which role you have. Always talk with a firm voice and never hesitate.....it will show her your weakness. If she still is rude, give her a time-out of 3 1/2 min, but no longer because she won't care after a period. It is very important to be good friends with your chil, so go to the park or play with her. It will help your relation. I hope that this will help you.
I have 2 daughters. What you have to do is when she gets out of control, you have to warn her that you are going to spank her if she doesnt listen. then, when you spank her, you have to make it sting really bad. trust me. she wont act up for a a while, then she will test you again within a week. you need to do the same thing again. remember, it has to sting or your wasting your time. she will listen. trust me, it works. make it sting.
just ignore her when she's in her 'mood' once she gets to see that her little attitude isn't getting her anywhere, she'll be a bit nicer. but maker her KNOW that YOU are the decision maker. YOU are the parent.. you are letting your child parent you while doing these things. that is NOT a good thing....once you let her walk over you, and do it agian, she'll figure out how to keep doing it...and eventually you will have no say at all because she'll have been doing this for so long, that she doesn't care what you think about what she does. you need to take charge of her immediately. if she needs a spanking, do it! put her in time out. when she starts getting into a tantrum (if you can tell when its coming on.) make her sit on the couch, no TV, radio-NOTHING. and do NOT let her get up until she knows that she will be able to behave more calmly. stick her nose in a corner until she learns that what she's doing isn't acceptable. you have to find whats right for her punishment. she's your child, you need to take charge.
X3
This may sound stupid, but watch super nanny, it may sound silly but just try. You have to be consistent in whatever you do. For example if you say she's in time out, leave her in time out and make sure she stays there, then when she's out of time out make sure she knows why she was there. When your disicplining her get down to her level to talk to her. Just some tips
when she does that keel down to her level and firmly explain to her that you are the parent and the Adult in the house and that she can't be tell you how to speak to her and that she needs to respect you and listen to what ever you say and not to tell you haw she wants things and that she has to remember to behave herself and she can't rule you and that she has to do what you tell her to do if she doesn't listen to you give her two warnings the first time she doesn't listen to you let her know that she won't be able to play if you have to remind her put her in time out for five minutes when you take her to time out explain to her what she did wrong and then walk away from her then when her five minutes are up go to her and explain to her again what she did wrong and warn her that if she does again she'll have to go in bed until she is ready to listen to you and follow your directions
will this kind of behaviour is common in kids so nothing to worry but ya u have to controlle this coz otherwise it can ber permanent behaviour. u can tell her this kind of behaviour is not accepted in the society.
dont encourage her behaviou.
if u will call her bossy in front of her it will encourage her to be more bossy. and one more thing never say ur child is bossy to other kids or ppl, coz then those ppl wl start calling her bossy (may be in front of u or may be ehind ur back) this will result in dangerour behaviour.
(if u have other kids then u can tell them to say no to her behaviour n report this thing to u).
try n ignore her behaviou coz children do this to get attention. pay more attention to her in general not wen she is acting bossy. if she acts bossy just make a small good excuse that u will listen to her, tell this excuse very politely to her n then pretend to forget to talk. asnwer her right away wen she ask thing in polite n gud manner.
then explain her that if ur way of telling and acting will be gud we wl answer ur questions very fast.
all this thing u have to do politely coz beating can do nothing except damage in long run.
last not the leat god forbid dont feel shy in taking medical advise if need coz it is the future of ur kid not a joke.
When a child directly defies you...
Turn them around.
Bend them over your knee.
Raise your hand up in the air.
Swing it down forcefully until your hand hits their buttocks.
If this does not work - start over.
I have 5 kids. 5! You only need to spank a few times when they directly defy you and you'll never need to again.
You need to be firm with her, and never, ever let her get away with that. Talk to her pediatrician, she may need some kind of play therapy to learn how to not be so bossy. If you don't nip this in the bud now, you're going to have a much harder time as she gets older. Good luck!
teach her that your in charge and youll make the rules first give her a talk about the rules the if that doesnt work give her a warning then out her i time out then a spanking then a talk with both parents and a luxury taken away (im not a mom only an aunt)
She needs a good smack across the mouth. My mom did it. It will keep her in check. Don't feel bad about spanking her. Think about this. Wouldn't you rather teach her how to behave now, then to have the police/society teach her later?
stop paying attention to her and do when she talks to you correctly. thats what my mom would do to my brother. but if you bloat about ur attention you'll just **** her off. go to barnes n noble an buy one of them 'parenting skills' books. they shood work
YOU HAVE TO SHOW HER YOU ARE THE BOSS.
IGNORE HER LITTLE DRAMAS,
AND WHEN SHE CALMS DOWN THEN SPEAK TO HER WITH AUTHORITY.
ALSO TAKE AWAY ANYTHING THING SHE LOVES.
TILL SHE CHANGES HER ATTITUDE
Grounding does wonders. Once she realizes that you control what she does and what she doesn't do, she should start to listen(better)
Even if you cant bear it, she needs a good spanking. Show her YOU are the boss. If you let it go on she'll grow up to be bitchy
You let her know you are the mother...father?
And by the way, don't hit your kid.
These people are crazy.
don't talk to her much.
you gotta keep your pimp hand strong
a good smack on the *** will shut her up..
Do I control cards in my Graveyard, Deck, and Hand? (Mtg)?
A card says target card I control gains X, can I select a card in my Graveyard, Hand, or Deck?Do I control cards in my Graveyard, Deck, and Hand? (Mtg)?
Cards you control are those on the battlefield, because only you can use their ability (in most cases) while it is on the battlefield, not your opponent. Your Graveyard, Hand, and Library are special zones that have cards you own, but don't control.Do I control cards in my Graveyard, Deck, and Hand? (Mtg)?
Yeah unless it specifically states in your graveyard, hand, or deck then its only whats on the field...
no its just whats on the field
Cards you control are those on the battlefield, because only you can use their ability (in most cases) while it is on the battlefield, not your opponent. Your Graveyard, Hand, and Library are special zones that have cards you own, but don't control.Do I control cards in my Graveyard, Deck, and Hand? (Mtg)?
Yeah unless it specifically states in your graveyard, hand, or deck then its only whats on the field...
no its just whats on the field
What song is this? - I wanna touch you but I'm trying to keep control of my hands?
That's all I know. :D
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And also the JB song at the end of Night at The Museum 2. The title.
THANKS. :)What song is this? - I wanna touch you but I'm trying to keep control of my hands?
That song is JB - Fly with me
The other song is Colby O'Donis - I wanna touch youWhat song is this? - I wanna touch you but I'm trying to keep control of my hands?
Basically every pop punk song...
It might be Poison by Alice Cooper.
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And also the JB song at the end of Night at The Museum 2. The title.
THANKS. :)What song is this? - I wanna touch you but I'm trying to keep control of my hands?
That song is JB - Fly with me
The other song is Colby O'Donis - I wanna touch youWhat song is this? - I wanna touch you but I'm trying to keep control of my hands?
Basically every pop punk song...
It might be Poison by Alice Cooper.
Middle grade schools handing out condoms and birth control pills without the parents knowledge nor consent.?
What are your thoughts on the Principal's action. Should schools be given the these rights over the Parents consent of their own children? Explain.. I think Parents should not allow Schools to over ride their authority. The Job of the school Administration is to teach how to read and write, nothing more.Middle grade schools handing out condoms and birth control pills without the parents knowledge nor consent.?
Sex ed is one thing; handing out birth control pills is another. I am very pro sex ed in schools, but not medicating children. Women need to go to their ob/gyn to get pills or even change pills, how can girls just get them from the school clinic?? HELL NO!
I could understand high school for girls over 16, but middle school is really pushing it. I think the state is getting too much in the way of parenting in many aspects. We don't live in Kiputs! We live in private homes where private family decisions are made and the state shouldn't interfere! Handing out these without parental consent to children who are 11, 12, 13 yr olds is very irresponsible on their part! The school district is wrong. I am a teacher and a mom and definitely wouldn't want my daughter to get these without my consent at such a young age.Middle grade schools handing out condoms and birth control pills without the parents knowledge nor consent.?
I agree
I see two sides...I think that parents should have authority over their children getting those pills, birth control has a range of side effects and other risks that includes, blood clots, high blood pressure, etc. Parents should be aware.
Even though, it is the school's job to educate, I do know for a fact that children these days kids are so infatuated and knowledgeable about sex and they usually first learn it in school. ORAL sex is very common as early as 2nd grade. I think sexual education needs to be taught in our school systems as well and parents need to be more proactive in educating their children about sex.
i totally agree however, if you know your child and you teach your child well, she or he will not be interested in condoms or birth control. If they are not having sex and are not interested in sex they will just ignore these rights given to them so freely. Children today just need to feel its okay to be a child. Let's face it they grow up too fast!~
I completley agree. They are there to educate. Although sex ed is a form of education, it isnt theyre call to give out these items. Parents have they're own way and timeline to speak about safe sex to theyre children. If the school wants to do something like that, in my opinion, that isnt there decision to make, they should hold a parent teacher council meeting to discuss it.
What the h*ll i don't know where thats at ,but i'd be at the court house.
Some children may be so lucky as to have parents who care enough about them to teach them how to control themselves; there are many children whose parents don't care two cents about them and don't teach them to control their urges and ignore them. Those children (esp girls) then start to look elsewhere for that attention, and without the love and guidance of their parents, in their minds, why not have sex? Especially when they don't know the consequences? I think sex ed is a very good thing, and that because of many irresponsible parents, our society has come to this. I do agree that the school should have to ask the parents permission first before they start handing out condoms to children.
Liesel.
Personally, I do not agree with this at all. I would not want my children getting this type of information/treatment at home, that is my job to handle. HOWEVER, I am a teacher in an Urban, inner-city school system. In this city, there is an epidemic of uninvolved parents, so the school is left with the sole responsibility to ';raise'; the students. Because of this, I have am aware of 2 factors that might influence my decision for my students:
1. What about the students without ';parents';? Most of my students do not have a traditional family unit. They have parents that are either in jail, strung out, working two to three jobs, or are completely uninvolved. These are the students that I think would benefit from this. Most of them are being raised by their siblings, raising their younger siblings or are living with friends of friends--if they have a home to go too. In our city, it is documented that we have over 2500 homeless students, most of which have gotten lost in the system or are escaping an abusive foster situation. However, if this was to take place, some sort of couseling needs to occur on behalf of the social worker, school pyschologist, etc.
2. If we perhaps had a national health care for our children, students might be able to visit their doctors more often. Yes, we know that Planned Parenthood exists and does the same thing under the supervision of a doctor, but a lot of the students do not know about these options. And, because of this, right now--I have 6 Juniors who are pregnant or have recently given birth, and 3 sophomores who are currently pregnant. This does not include the multiple students that I have who already HAVE children. We know the students are having sex, so why not provide them with the proper tools to prevent pregnancy, STDs and HIV?
It's a tough decision, but in my city, I think more students would benefit from this than not. However, this is a result of many other social issues that also need to be addressed. I believe the main arguement is, we are involved in our children's lives, so yes, we are upset. But what about those chidlren who aren't so lucky to have a responsible parent?
The school can not even give an ASPIRIN to the kids, but they can do this !!!!!!????????
The main problem with our society is that parents are not wanting to talk to their children about this issue. It is awkward and uncomfortable..... I think that we should absolutely teach abstinence...but let's face the facts--- kids are going to have sex..... so let's also teach them about protection. The problem of teen sex and teen parents goes all of the way back to the Quaker's. It is not a new issue.... not even close. I think that we all want to hope that our kids are not having sex... but don't put it past them. It is a fact of life. Don't give the permission, just teach them responsibly. If more parents opened up the topic in their homes... we might have less issues with outside influences taking the matter into their own hands. A.I.D.S is an epidemic.... 1 in 4 people age 14 -25 years of age have the virus..... just imagine if they were given condoms or at least had ';no questions'; asked access to them... would the numbers be so high????
Take a look at your childs closest group of friends.....count it out... 1 in 4 of them could very well have the virus. It is time that we influence our children with our faith, the truth and science.
No... I don't think it is the school's right..... but at least they are trying to do something.
But some kids don't have their parents to teach them about sex and the diseases that accompanies it. They don't teach them about getting pregnant at such a young age and the consequences that happen.when a young girl gets pregnant. If a kid is going to have sex they're going to have sex no matter what anyone tells them so shouldn't someone educate them on it and provide condoms so they don't get pregnant and they don't catch any diseases?? My friend got pregnant at 15 and her parents where never there for her and they never told her anything about sex. She always says now that she wishes someone would have talked to her about it.
Condoms are very expensive do you really think that a kid is going to spend what little money they have on condoms?? I don't think so. Someone should provide them with free condoms.
Oh and by the way, the only person who can hand out birth control pills are doctors.
Schools can't give out pills LOL. Unless they have doctors working for them which i highly doubt.
i don't agree with this at all.
schools should not medicate who they want, when they want. who is responsible for one or more being allergic ?
i'm allergic to the pill.
well they have them so if there going to do anything theyd rather them do it protected then just normaly
Sex ed is one thing; handing out birth control pills is another. I am very pro sex ed in schools, but not medicating children. Women need to go to their ob/gyn to get pills or even change pills, how can girls just get them from the school clinic?? HELL NO!
I could understand high school for girls over 16, but middle school is really pushing it. I think the state is getting too much in the way of parenting in many aspects. We don't live in Kiputs! We live in private homes where private family decisions are made and the state shouldn't interfere! Handing out these without parental consent to children who are 11, 12, 13 yr olds is very irresponsible on their part! The school district is wrong. I am a teacher and a mom and definitely wouldn't want my daughter to get these without my consent at such a young age.Middle grade schools handing out condoms and birth control pills without the parents knowledge nor consent.?
I agree
I see two sides...I think that parents should have authority over their children getting those pills, birth control has a range of side effects and other risks that includes, blood clots, high blood pressure, etc. Parents should be aware.
Even though, it is the school's job to educate, I do know for a fact that children these days kids are so infatuated and knowledgeable about sex and they usually first learn it in school. ORAL sex is very common as early as 2nd grade. I think sexual education needs to be taught in our school systems as well and parents need to be more proactive in educating their children about sex.
i totally agree however, if you know your child and you teach your child well, she or he will not be interested in condoms or birth control. If they are not having sex and are not interested in sex they will just ignore these rights given to them so freely. Children today just need to feel its okay to be a child. Let's face it they grow up too fast!~
I completley agree. They are there to educate. Although sex ed is a form of education, it isnt theyre call to give out these items. Parents have they're own way and timeline to speak about safe sex to theyre children. If the school wants to do something like that, in my opinion, that isnt there decision to make, they should hold a parent teacher council meeting to discuss it.
What the h*ll i don't know where thats at ,but i'd be at the court house.
Some children may be so lucky as to have parents who care enough about them to teach them how to control themselves; there are many children whose parents don't care two cents about them and don't teach them to control their urges and ignore them. Those children (esp girls) then start to look elsewhere for that attention, and without the love and guidance of their parents, in their minds, why not have sex? Especially when they don't know the consequences? I think sex ed is a very good thing, and that because of many irresponsible parents, our society has come to this. I do agree that the school should have to ask the parents permission first before they start handing out condoms to children.
Liesel.
Personally, I do not agree with this at all. I would not want my children getting this type of information/treatment at home, that is my job to handle. HOWEVER, I am a teacher in an Urban, inner-city school system. In this city, there is an epidemic of uninvolved parents, so the school is left with the sole responsibility to ';raise'; the students. Because of this, I have am aware of 2 factors that might influence my decision for my students:
1. What about the students without ';parents';? Most of my students do not have a traditional family unit. They have parents that are either in jail, strung out, working two to three jobs, or are completely uninvolved. These are the students that I think would benefit from this. Most of them are being raised by their siblings, raising their younger siblings or are living with friends of friends--if they have a home to go too. In our city, it is documented that we have over 2500 homeless students, most of which have gotten lost in the system or are escaping an abusive foster situation. However, if this was to take place, some sort of couseling needs to occur on behalf of the social worker, school pyschologist, etc.
2. If we perhaps had a national health care for our children, students might be able to visit their doctors more often. Yes, we know that Planned Parenthood exists and does the same thing under the supervision of a doctor, but a lot of the students do not know about these options. And, because of this, right now--I have 6 Juniors who are pregnant or have recently given birth, and 3 sophomores who are currently pregnant. This does not include the multiple students that I have who already HAVE children. We know the students are having sex, so why not provide them with the proper tools to prevent pregnancy, STDs and HIV?
It's a tough decision, but in my city, I think more students would benefit from this than not. However, this is a result of many other social issues that also need to be addressed. I believe the main arguement is, we are involved in our children's lives, so yes, we are upset. But what about those chidlren who aren't so lucky to have a responsible parent?
The school can not even give an ASPIRIN to the kids, but they can do this !!!!!!????????
The main problem with our society is that parents are not wanting to talk to their children about this issue. It is awkward and uncomfortable..... I think that we should absolutely teach abstinence...but let's face the facts--- kids are going to have sex..... so let's also teach them about protection. The problem of teen sex and teen parents goes all of the way back to the Quaker's. It is not a new issue.... not even close. I think that we all want to hope that our kids are not having sex... but don't put it past them. It is a fact of life. Don't give the permission, just teach them responsibly. If more parents opened up the topic in their homes... we might have less issues with outside influences taking the matter into their own hands. A.I.D.S is an epidemic.... 1 in 4 people age 14 -25 years of age have the virus..... just imagine if they were given condoms or at least had ';no questions'; asked access to them... would the numbers be so high????
Take a look at your childs closest group of friends.....count it out... 1 in 4 of them could very well have the virus. It is time that we influence our children with our faith, the truth and science.
No... I don't think it is the school's right..... but at least they are trying to do something.
But some kids don't have their parents to teach them about sex and the diseases that accompanies it. They don't teach them about getting pregnant at such a young age and the consequences that happen.when a young girl gets pregnant. If a kid is going to have sex they're going to have sex no matter what anyone tells them so shouldn't someone educate them on it and provide condoms so they don't get pregnant and they don't catch any diseases?? My friend got pregnant at 15 and her parents where never there for her and they never told her anything about sex. She always says now that she wishes someone would have talked to her about it.
Condoms are very expensive do you really think that a kid is going to spend what little money they have on condoms?? I don't think so. Someone should provide them with free condoms.
Oh and by the way, the only person who can hand out birth control pills are doctors.
Schools can't give out pills LOL. Unless they have doctors working for them which i highly doubt.
i don't agree with this at all.
schools should not medicate who they want, when they want. who is responsible for one or more being allergic ?
i'm allergic to the pill.
well they have them so if there going to do anything theyd rather them do it protected then just normaly
Do you control life in your hands or is it a GOD thing?
i feel like religion control your mind too much .
I believe that their is God though and it seem to me that i dont know anything about him.
Open minded answers. Dont just quote bible scripture or tell me God doesnt exist that not what im looking for.Do you control life in your hands or is it a GOD thing?
I control my life to a certain point..
I can't make something happen if it's not Gods will. But I make my own choices, and stuff like that. I'd honestly rather have God control my life.. because only God knows whats best for me. I trust him with everything. God is the only one I truly trust. I mean, he's GOD. why wouldn't I trust Him? He's God for crying out loud.. the one that created everyone, everything. the one that protects us, and loves us..
anyway. Religion doesn't control my mind.. God doesn't even control my mind. God won't control anyones actions, anyones thoughts, he's just going to be there to help us make the right choices. God wants us to trust in Him. when I trust in God, I feel like i'm closer to Him in my life. and when He makes things work out the way that he wants, it's perfect :) because HE is perfect. Praise God :)Do you control life in your hands or is it a GOD thing?
Anyone who gives a 'Freudian slip' that something is controlling them, it shows that THEY have no control. Just a heads up.
Basically you are saying that you cannot control yourself and that others are trying to control you.
You bear the responsibility of your life in your own hands. You are responsible for what you do to God.
You are only being controlled if your practicing religion against your will. If you are choosing to practice then you choose to follow and if at any point you change your mind, then your free to stop. Your mind is your own no one can force any set of beliefs on you, no matter what the circumstance.
Hi,
%26gt;%26gt; Open minded answers. Dont just quote bible scripture or tell me God
%26gt;%26gt; doesnt exist that not what im looking for.
You seem to contradict yourself, you ask me to have an open mind, but I can't look to the answer outside of me, only inside! I'm sorry, to be open minded is to be open to the OTHERS mind, not MINE.
This is a proof of openmindness to look outside of us to look to answers. So, if I understand the world by the Bible, I am more open minded than you who can only understand anything by yourself.
If the bible is true, I am proud to shape my worldview with her: how can I be better guided than by the creator of all things ?
Regards,
Emmanuel
Ya, Religion does tend to play a major part in people's lives but it's only the really Religious people that are controlled, i know a few laid back Religious people/believers in God and they seem pretty cool.
The only one that can control us and not manipulate us is God. For me and those who believe that Jesus is the way, the truth and the life, we gladly surrender to Him, because He knows what is best for us. The Holy Spirit guides and directs without the human addition of mind control and manipulation. Manipulation is the world's idea of control. Love is God's idea. And He is worthy of my trust, and giving Him my life. He created me so why wouldn't He know what's best for me?
God gives us the ability to control our lives.
I believe that we control our own lifes but that God does have a plan for us we just dont know about it. that way our decisions are our own but one day we will learn how it was ';supposed to all work together';
I believe that their is God though and it seem to me that i dont know anything about him.
Open minded answers. Dont just quote bible scripture or tell me God doesnt exist that not what im looking for.Do you control life in your hands or is it a GOD thing?
I control my life to a certain point..
I can't make something happen if it's not Gods will. But I make my own choices, and stuff like that. I'd honestly rather have God control my life.. because only God knows whats best for me. I trust him with everything. God is the only one I truly trust. I mean, he's GOD. why wouldn't I trust Him? He's God for crying out loud.. the one that created everyone, everything. the one that protects us, and loves us..
anyway. Religion doesn't control my mind.. God doesn't even control my mind. God won't control anyones actions, anyones thoughts, he's just going to be there to help us make the right choices. God wants us to trust in Him. when I trust in God, I feel like i'm closer to Him in my life. and when He makes things work out the way that he wants, it's perfect :) because HE is perfect. Praise God :)Do you control life in your hands or is it a GOD thing?
Anyone who gives a 'Freudian slip' that something is controlling them, it shows that THEY have no control. Just a heads up.
Basically you are saying that you cannot control yourself and that others are trying to control you.
You bear the responsibility of your life in your own hands. You are responsible for what you do to God.
You are only being controlled if your practicing religion against your will. If you are choosing to practice then you choose to follow and if at any point you change your mind, then your free to stop. Your mind is your own no one can force any set of beliefs on you, no matter what the circumstance.
Hi,
%26gt;%26gt; Open minded answers. Dont just quote bible scripture or tell me God
%26gt;%26gt; doesnt exist that not what im looking for.
You seem to contradict yourself, you ask me to have an open mind, but I can't look to the answer outside of me, only inside! I'm sorry, to be open minded is to be open to the OTHERS mind, not MINE.
This is a proof of openmindness to look outside of us to look to answers. So, if I understand the world by the Bible, I am more open minded than you who can only understand anything by yourself.
If the bible is true, I am proud to shape my worldview with her: how can I be better guided than by the creator of all things ?
Regards,
Emmanuel
Ya, Religion does tend to play a major part in people's lives but it's only the really Religious people that are controlled, i know a few laid back Religious people/believers in God and they seem pretty cool.
The only one that can control us and not manipulate us is God. For me and those who believe that Jesus is the way, the truth and the life, we gladly surrender to Him, because He knows what is best for us. The Holy Spirit guides and directs without the human addition of mind control and manipulation. Manipulation is the world's idea of control. Love is God's idea. And He is worthy of my trust, and giving Him my life. He created me so why wouldn't He know what's best for me?
God gives us the ability to control our lives.
I believe that we control our own lifes but that God does have a plan for us we just dont know about it. that way our decisions are our own but one day we will learn how it was ';supposed to all work together';
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